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Home › Articles › General › The Gift of Being There

The Gift of Being There

8 Secrets for Visiting a Seriously Ill Loved One

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3. Stop Worrying About What You're Going to Say
Come from a place of love and the words won't matter. "People really do obsess over saying 'the right thing'," Apollon says. "Frankly, it doesn't matter what you say, as long as you say it from a place of love. Say anything that works for you, as long as it feels good. Focus on your love for the person. Let that love fill your heart and overflow into the room. Deliberately send your love to the person. Believe me, he will feel it."

OK, so you know you don't need to go in with a script. But what if you really, really need some icebreakers to get you started? Apollon offers a few hints:

  • Keep it real. Don't say something you don't really believe, like "I know you will beat this disease." You don't know that and saying you do creates a sense of disconnect the person can feel.
  • Say, "Whatever happens, it will work itself out," or "Whatever happens, things will fall into place." You can say this in good conscience if you believe in an afterlife or a master plan. Even if death is imminent, you feel confident that your loved one is headed for a better place.
  • Simple phrases like "It's good to see you," or "I've missed you," are fine.
  • If you're absolutely at a loss for words, it's OK to say so: "Bill, I don't know what to say or do, but I am here and I care about you."
4. Help the Person Connect with Her Own Intention

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