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Why I'll Be Gone--for a While

September 7, 2006

On the 29th of Aug., my father died.  They were able to revive him after 50 min. of defib.  He was in a coma for 2 1/2 days and his condition is such that they still haven't even taken a close look at his heart.  He talks now, but cannot form any memories and he is very confused.  There is definitely brain damage, but we do not know if it will last or if he will recover all or most of it.  2 days into the ordeal, we were told by the 'experts' to start thinking about pulling the plug; he was given a 5% chance of coming out of the coma.  He now walks, toilets himself, feeds himself, and holds simple conversations.  He knows all of us but has a very short attention span and seems very 'confused' and 'young' in the head.

I've been taking care of him when I'm not busy having a blood transfusion.  That's another long story.  Male ER doctors and uterine hemorrhage.  Took 3 trips before I got a female OB in the ER who finally did the D&C and more and by then I needed 2 units of whole blood and an overnight hospital stay.  I wasn't pregnant or anything; they say that is what happens to some women when they come off depo.

Dad's finances are also a mess.  There was no Power of Attorney and financial matters do not automatically go to the children so no one can access his accounts to pay his bills, sell his house before it forecloses to use the money to keep up his health insurance, etc.  There's a lot of fighting within the family.  I have to make all the calls and every choice I make someone hates.  However, to have real power to do anything to save his credit, house, truck, etc, I'll need thousands I don't have and months dad doesn't have to file for conservatorship.  Something like that.  I've been talking to the social worker at the hospital. 

Meanwhile, we have issue at our house that already had me at the end of my rope.  The only thing I cling to is the Lord.  He assured me the first night beside Daddy's bed that it would be OK.  I have no idea what OK is going to look like, but I know it to be true.  He walked me through my m/c; he will walk me through this.  However, it takes all my time to care for this, so for now I will not be here, posting.  But, I'll be back when things settle.

Best wishes,

Khy

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